Prepare to use your keyboard as an instrument of revenge. I'm 93% certain this series of posts will steam
a few most of you. Blow rage in the comments if you want, I don't really care.
I sloshed out of my mother's loins in 1976 and have been a single dad since I was 27. Not where I expected to be at this phase of my life. Dating at 35 with a kid in-tow is a wretched idea. I'm not 16 and this isn't high school. I've been raising my daughter alone for the last 8 years, we know no different than for it to be just the two of us.
The majority of women my age are married, divorced or single cat ladies. I'm a traditional dad that would feel more at home living in 1951 than 2011. Most women live in 2011, not 1951. My recalcitrance in finding a mate will become clear as you continue reading. I've got a long rant to uncoil, so let's cut this mother up and poke at daycare this day.
I do a face palm when taking a general look at modern American family dynamics. Two parents working full time is something I want no part of. The common theme is often chucking child in daycare to be raised 10 hours a day by a person scarcely making minimum wage. Many parents don't blink at this. It's a "work/life balance", after all.
Why is full time daycare for a baby three months old through preschool okay with a good chunk of the population? Damn.
Before Pigtails was born, my ex worked a daycare. It was a high dollar center on the ground level of a large corporation, the place had a solid reputation. Wife came home from work telling me wrenching stories about what goes down while mom and dad are working. Workers were trained to not tell parents when they witnessed a toddler taking their first steps. They wanted mom and dad to think they were the first to see it. Parents not showing up for class picnics when they promised they would, causing their kid to sob inconsolably in a corner. Biting tots from hell, one gnawed on another's ear until blood flowed. The workers didn't have the authority to do anything about it, other than to "write a report and notify affected parties". A child was left behind on a field trip.
It's a sad situation, I feel sorry for these little ones. A person paid to watch a child will never love them to the same degree as the parent.
Disclaimer: I understand some folks must use daycare. They don't have a choice. This was true for me. Pigtails was just under age 2 when her mom left, so I placed her in an in-home daycare out of necessity. Hated it, tore me up. I cried in the car every day that first week I drove from work to pick her up. Being forced to put Pigtails in daycare is what bothered me the most about my wife leaving.
Finding a lady friend that has similar thinking as me on this subject is a difficult thing. It's 2011, you know. Who wants to be a stay-at-home mom?
Maybe it's time for me to get a cat. Or 10.