Below are some random questions a couple of you asked awhile back via the Comments. Time for answers, inquiring minds want to know.
Q: Do you consider yourself a strict parent? What does Pigtails' say on the subject?
A: I'm generous with discipline and love. It's a balance, I firmly believe you need both.
I've found that if you nip problems in the bud early when the brat is two or three years old, wild child is fairly well behaved by the time they hit four and five. Pigtails is a peach most of the time (may take a mulligan on that statement when she's a teen). She knows her boundaries, feels loved, and I think this strongly contributes to her being confident and happy.
Q: You seem like a very hands on Dad (no choice as a single parent I know). Has being a single parent nurtured that, or, have you always been hands on?
A: I've always been hands on. I love babies, kids, wish I had five or six of 'em. My primary purpose on this green Earth is to be a good daddy. I'd be missing out on the best part of life if I wasn't a hands on father!
Q: What is the biggest misconception about being a single dad vs. single mom?
A: I think many people assume the mother should get primary custody in a divorce. I encourage dads to stand up for their rights and FIGHT, FIGHT, FIGHT! Choose your attorney carefully. Fire them and find another of they don't have the balls to duke it out for you.
There are some that think a dad can't handle doing it all on his own. I'm getting it done, and Pigtails has not lost even a single limb.
Q: Do you have any pets?
A: Nope, not even a cat. ;-) I'd go out and adopt a Border Collie right now if I lived on an acreage and could let him run free. The thought of a scrappy little 40 pounder panting beside on a gravel run out in the boonies is something I very much want. I can't wait to get out of the city and build a small home in the countryside. May never happen, but we can all dream.
Q: How tall ARE you?
Q: What was prison like?
A: The Perky Noodle Bake was not bad. And if you drop a bar of soap, leave it be.
Q: Does Pigtails have an agent (if Pigtails is even her real name)?
A: Does an insurance agent count?
Q: How did you figure out how to do Pigtail's hair when she was little? My husband struggles trying to put our daughter's hair in a little ponytail and it makes me giggle.
A: Ah, the classic dad/daughter bouffant question. I'll write a post about this sometime. Can't say there's never been tears (perhaps by both of us) trying to tame that wild mop top. Detangler and ponytails, FTW.
Q: When did you start running?
A: Started running in high school back in 1991. I was decent and the only person on the cross country team to qualify for state. Also ran the mile and two mile at state and was in the top 12 in both. Coach Hoffman was always there pushing me, wearing his Daisy Duke blue polyester shorts.
Q: Did you really have headgear? Photos please. I had braces FOREVER but no headgear. My brother had a retainer that he had to crank once a week that we later found out was basically splitting the roof of his mouth open. Gag.
A: Yes, I had headgear twice, braces three times, rubberbands and a myriad of retainers.
Let's just say I was a chick magnet.
I also wore the retainer from hell with the key you mention, split the roof of my mouth to correct a bucky-the-horse overbite problem. No pics, mom wasn't the best at keeping them safe and 99% of my childhood photos rotted in a damp basement. :-(
Q: Obviously you take hiking trips and perhaps the random marathon without the lil' one but do you take time for yourself in other ways?
A: No, not really. I have Pigtails 90% of the time. When she's not with me, I'm either exhausted or banging on fix-it-up house projects. I need a vacation.
Q: And, I'll ask - do you date?!?!?
A: I have a close friend, Curls.
Thanks for being easy on me, Cari and DSMama!