Mar 10, 2013

Finding Our Kiddo's Currency

Parenting requires inching along the shaky highwire, balancing the raising of our children with equal parts love and discipline.  In order for L&D to land a deep impact, we need to find our kiddo's currency.

Their coinage changes over time.  By paying attention and keeping the talking line open, it's easy to figure out what makes them tick.

Curls picked up Pigtails a real live bra, replete with teeny cups wielding itty-bitty underwires.  The girl doesn't need one yet, but is curious, asking questions and Curls couldn't resist when she spotted a double-A at Younkers.  Pigtails squealed and jumped.

Daughter is addicted to Trader Joe's roasted seaweed snacks.  She grabs a pair of fishy smelling crisps, like a beaver ripping on soft pine she shreds it down, spraying shards of chlorophyll.

Pigtails was doling out mouthy sass this weekend.  I asked her to stop, she kept at it.  Knowing her currency, I barked:

"Knock if off or you're grounded from the bra and seaweed for one week."  

It was difficult not to laugh when saying that line, nearly lost it.

Her face dropped and she zipped it.  No more mouth from her after that.

I also know what makes her smile, we put down some salty dance-offs in the living room whilst listening to the Radio Disney app.  Perhaps I was wearing a one piece spandex bike racing suit as a leotard in last night's throwdown.

What makes your kids tick, and what's their currency?



  1. My kids are too old and no longer depend on me for the steering.
    But, I can tell you from experience that you have it right.
    Of course, mentioning the bra, in any context AT ALL in six months to a year, will buy you anger instead of compliance.
    (Aren't I always preaching?!)

    1. Got it, no additional mentioning of the over the shoulder boulder holder.

  2. When I was Pigtails age my parents used to punish me by taking my books away. We laugh about the irony now; while most parents try to bribe their kids into reading, mine were removing them from my possession. To be fair, it worked quite well. I was devastated when they would take them. Of course, eight year later when we were moving my mom came to me with the stack of books and asked if I wanted them back. lol- I guess by then the point had been made?
    My little brother used to read the sports section of the newspaper every day; this started when he was about 5 years old. So that's how my parents punished him... by taking away the newspaper.

    1. Ouchie, an 8 year book punishment, that's severe.

  3. Our biggest struggle right now is putting away his own laundry and actually putting dirty clothes in a hamper. I can't tell you how many times I find clean, FOLDED shirts, at the bottom of the hamper with a few actually dirty shirts thrown over the top.

    Taking away the iPad works. He only gets 30 mins/day, but it's enough to keep the dirty drawers away from his clean shirts. :)

    1. I hear you, bugs me when she wears a clean dress to church once for an hour, then comes home and chucks it in the dirty pile. I caught on and now she folds her own laundry, which is the worst part of doing a load. She's since gone green, a miracle.


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