Aug 26, 2013

Turn up the Bass

Pigtails was by her side when mom passed the day before 4th of July.

Sometimes she wakes up at night crying.  A few days after the funeral, daughter grabbed my antique flip phone and tried to speed dial her mom.  Took her a minute to realize nobody would answer.

She has a great school counselor, they exchanged handwritten cards this summer.  The first day of school, counselor pulled Pigtails from class for a few minutes so they could have a quiet talk.  Kids are resilient, she'll be okay.

Horrific few months.  I listen as people tell me about their sunny multi-week travels...smile and lie when they ask how our summer went.

Fifth grade started last week.  She's looking more grown up lately.  Our conversations are maturing, lots of lady and special napkins and other such topics lately.  She talks to me about everything.  I love that, and hope she continues through the teen years.



We biked 180 miles on three days of RAGBRAI last month.  Daughter got sick on a rancid corn dog/rainbow slushy cocktail and projectile chunked the inside of our tent the first night.  I chucked my bile coated sleeping bag outside and shivered on the bare floor. Once we got that cleaned up, it was blue skies cranking the tandem with 30,000 bikers, swarming two lane blacktops through Iowa cornfields. 




Pigtails hung with her mom's sister, Aunt E-E in South Carolina.  First time flying alone, she loved it.  While she was away, six of us plus a pup canoe and fished the Boundary Waters.  Yes to adventure, bacon, bourbon and walleye.




Remember filling the pot so Quincy can replace his obsolete cochlear processors?  His mom applied the $6K and purchased a right processor.  Q says the new one is not fuzzy sounding like the old.  

We need to raise the rest to replace his left ear, I'll put up a post for that soon.  Click here if you'd like to help.  



The picture window and double hungs are ripped out.  Pigtails calls it the haunted house.  An 8-ft slab of glass is being chiseled and will be ready to install later this week.  It's pretty big, should open up the living room and the lack of frames, screens and other muck will make for one clean front.



Had a roofer inspect my 20-yr-old asphalt shingles.  He said the lid has another 3 years of life, his honesty impressed.

Want to guess what the quote came back for a steel hat?  $15,000 for the house, that doesn't include the detached garage.

I asked if it's gold gilded.
He didn't blink.

Learned that metal shingles cost less than steel panels.  He said there's significantly more labor with cutting the panels vs. steel shingles and simple fasteners.  Regardless of the roof materials, I'll go with galvanized gutters when the time comes.  Matte silver steel against red brick.

Curls and I signed a peace treaty and have been on good terms for a long while.  Time apart threshes the chaff.

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Fugly summer.  What can you do but fire up Pandora, turn up the bass and dance with your daughter.

Tell me about your dog days.

-Beard

42 comments:

  1. Glad to hear an update from you guys; I've thought about you guys on my recent Target runs.

    Good to hear Pigtails was able to have those moments with her mom and that you and Curls have called a truce.

    Best wishes to you all.

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    1. We were at the Merle Target last night, a car was on fire in the parking lot. I'd hate to be the van parked next to the burning car, return to vehicle after purchasing a loaf of Charmin and the paint's melted off the passenger side.

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  2. So sorry to hear the news. You and your daughter have been on my prayer list this whole summer. I'm glad to hear things are starting to look up ever so slightly. Pigtails is clearly becoming a stunning young lady- better get your shot gun out and polished! Looking forward to future posts and updates.

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    1. I pack a Remington 870.

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  3. Glad you are doing okay, all things considered. I continue to pray for you and yours.

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  4. Thanks for the update. Have been wondering how you're all faring. Will continue prayers for you and yours.
    What fundraising plans do you have for Quincy? I don't remember any kind of money raising on your blog, unless the bento box profits were for him but I thought those were your blog maintenance fund.
    You ask about your readers' summer. Not too much of the sunny, weeks long adventures here. We've mostly spent the time trying to figure out boy child's behavior. He's a strong willed, temperamental 3 y/o beginning to show an angry bent. Want to stop that dead in it's tracks right now. Advice anyone?

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    1. This: http://www.beardandpigtails.com/2012/11/giving-thanks-and-new-pair-of-ears.html

      Talking with Pigtails when she was 3 sometimes helped. Told her clearly what the consequences were if she acted up, then followed through if she chose to push buttons. And I spanked.

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  5. Anonymous8/26/2013

    Welcome back

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  6. Good to hear from you.
    Been on my mind.

    bb

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    1. Thanks BB, hope you had a nice summer.

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  7. Good to hear from you again. Glad to hear Pigtails is coping ok, and at least there was some fun. Looking forward to see the house upgrades. Down this side, we're waiting for approval to put up a wraparound veranda, bracing for a very hot summer, as winter seemed to have forgotten to come here.

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    1. How is spring in South Africa? 95 degrees today here, looks like you are 55.

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    2. Spring is a rumour and lasts about 6 days. Today we went up to 29C, and it's only September...

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    3. (Around 85F?)

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  8. So sorry to hear the news of Pigtails Mom - you guys have been on my mind this summer.
    Thanks for the updates and hope to see a return to regular blogging from you soon.
    Best wishes to you both.

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  9. Andrea8/27/2013

    Dear Beard: Sucky summer indeed. My dad passed away early on the 4th of July. I'm 28 and it sucked. I would guess losing a parent when you are Pigtails' age is worse, as is being helpless to change things for her - and of course in its own way its a huge loss for you, too. All this to say: I'm sorry you've had to go through this. Everyone responds differently to loss based on their own truths and relationships. For both of you, I hope for peace, moments of comfort and joy, and comfort when things are hard.

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  10. Thanks for the update, Beard. I just read your last post last night and was filling my husband in with the details. He remembers hearing "Beard stories" from me before and we were both so saddened with the news of Pigtails' Mom. I had a brother who was killed in a car accident 10 years ago and I've often thought it would have been nice to say goodbye, but reading about what you all have gone through these past few months, I suppose there's NO easy way to deal with the death of a loved one. I'm glad Pigtails has such a strong rock in you to lean on, even if at times you don't feel like it. You are always there for your little girl! I'll be praying for wisdom and guidance for you as you continue to raise her. And for Pigtails...what a whole lot of growing up she's experiencing--in every way. Beautiful girl:) Blessings to you both!

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  11. I am so sorry you have had to go through this. So very sorry.

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  12. Pigtails is so beautiful, she looks so grown up! I wish her the best this school year. I may have to pick your brain about catholic vs public schools, HJ just started this year in the catholic system :)

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    1. Catholic school is the best deal around, less than $2k a year after tax break.

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  13. Anonymous8/27/2013

    so good to hear from you!!!
    sending happy thoughts.

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  14. You and Pigtails have been in my thoughts this summer,I have stopped by everyday to see if there was an update. I'm happy to hear she has such a caring councilor in school ... it really does take a village to raise our children.

    I spent our summer moving to a small island (pop. 425), training for the Army Run in September and grabbing a quick 5km race right here on the island last weekend. Turns out I am a runner at 43 and I've set my sights on a half marathon in 2014.

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    1. Awesome, thanks for the update and you'll love your first half.

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  15. Y'all have been on my prayer list all summer. I'm so sorry to read about Pigtails' mom passing. I will continue lifting you guys up in prayer. So thankful she has such an amazing counselor. The RAGBRAI looks like it was a great time and that picture of the canoe on the lake is just perfect. Thanks for the update. Can't wait to see more about the picture window remodel.

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    1. New window is in place today, the caulk smells like poison but looks good.

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  16. I smiled today when your post popped up. It's good to hear an update. I'm sorry that this Summer had to be so 'Fugly', but your attitude is spot on! Dance with your daughter! Boy, she seemed to grow up alot, while you were off the blog. I noticed the big proud earrings in all the pictures, to go with her big proud smile. We have had a nice Winter here, gorgeous days at the moment and snuggly nights. Looking forward to welcoming Spring this weekend and rolling downhill, finishing off the school year and into Summer. Counting down the days until our pool is warm enough to enjoy getting into and the daily schedules can relax a little. This 2nd half, July until Christmas part of the year, always seems to pass by in a flash. It was good to catch up, I hope you'll stick around and tell us lots more.

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  17. Anonymous8/28/2013

    Phew, glad your back.

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  18. My sincere condolences. Glad to see an update. The bike ride sounds incredible.

    Pigtails IS looking so grown up!

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  19. Hey there - school already !?! I guess - that bike trip looks awesome - well except for the tent issue
    Got no summer stories, just a good to hear from you

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  20. Glad your back. Sorry to hear about Pigtails' Mom. I can't wait to see the new roof, window, and whatever you've decided to come up with regarding the living room fireplace/built-ins wall.

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    1. Post mentioned the roof doesn't need replaced.

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  21. Melissa8/29/2013

    It's good to hear from you. I've been keeping you and Pigtails in my thoughts.

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  22. Anonymous8/29/2013

    where are the walleye pics/vids?

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    1. Dropbox, send me your email address.

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  23. So good to hear from you. Tough summer for pigtails and you - your family continues to be in my prayers.

    My summer was spent having knee replacement surgery and then the week I went back to work, found out that I had an MRSA and had to have it completely redone. I'm now just about finished with the intraveneous antibiotics and am working on my rehab for this second surgery. Hope to be off the cane and back to swimming and biking soon. It's been a long, difficult summer but not nearly as bad as yours. I'm grateful for the ability to get this infection knocked out and to have pain free knees for the first time in many years.

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  24. Welcome back to the internets. I'm sorry to hear what all of you are going through. I hope you have some good times ahead. Will make another donation for Quincy's 2nd ear. Great cause.

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  25. Welcome back!

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  26. Rachael8/31/2013

    You and your sweet girl have been in my thoughts and prayers all summer. I'm so relieved that you and Curls have mended your fences because I really think Pigtails needs all the support she can get. I'm glad Pigtails got to spend some time with her mom's family as well - I think that will help her to keep feeling close to her mom.

    On another note... look at the legs on that girl!!!! She is growin' like a weed and she only gets more beautiful every time we see her.

    Just let us know about Quincy and I'm sure most of us will be happy to help out. He seems like such a sweet kid and he's lucky to have you and Pigtails in his life. You're a good soul, Beard, and that counts for so much.

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  27. What a sweetie she is - absolutely adorable! I hate that some kids have to live through heartache. I firmly believe that it helps shape them into compassionate and understanding adults though (with the right support system). And, I promise you, if you keep talking to her, she will keep talking to you - even through the teen years (although it may take a little more coaxing for her to share - she will eventually do it!). Creating a place that is safe for her to be who she is makes all the difference (and you've already done that). Take good care!

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  28. Hi!! Sorry for the sucky-ish summer. Thought about you guys and would send little prayers up while drinking tea - the good stuff. My goodness she is getting taller. I hope she always talks to you about things - and keep listening to my daughters stories now just praying to lay that habit of communication down before she hits double digits. Clean lined window, brick and steel - that is nice.

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  29. Welcome back. Missed your posts this summer. Very sad to hear about Pigtails' mom. But it's so heartening how much she talks to you. I hope my daughter has that kind of relationship with her father.
    And the bike extravaganza sounds amazing.

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  30. I'm late on this but I'm so happy you're back. Sorry for this summer, it was not your friend, I'm glad it's over for you.
    I was raised by my single mom and although she could share in the lady stuff and what not, I always told her EVERYTHING- even the teenage stuff that most kids hid from their parents. We still have that type of relationship, she was always been honest and open with me and non-judgmental while still maintaining rules/discipline which I think made me feel good about telling her stuff. And thank-god I did, my teenage years were, well, crazy and if it wasn't for her I'd hate to imagine who I would have become or if I would have even made it to 20 (not to say this is the same for Pigtails, I had other circumstances that influenced me to do bad things).
    Your a good dad.

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