Nov 17, 2013

Failing to Find Your Niche - 3

By your perseverance you will secure your lives. Lk 21:19

By now you've deduced the title's a word play.  It's not about failing to find your niche, but rather using failure like a machete to hack the thatch until you discover talent.

Yesterday mom said "Beard, reading your blog you sound down."  Nope, so wanted to be clear on the point of the series.

9 quickies I've learned from failing in order to find my niche, then we're all done:

  1. If there's an opportunity to try something new, do it.  The best (and worst) came when I said yep.
  2. Saying no in order to avoid failure is not better than saying yes and experiencing failure.  You don't know what you're missing without trying.
  3. You won't be good at everything, don't let it bother you.  Join the club.  
  4. Fear of failure, or not being certain we'll be good at something is not a good reason to say no.  Don't be a puss.
  5. We don't have to be perfect to make a difference.  Sometimes good enough is sufficient.
  6. If you fail at something, step back and decide if you should a) stop, b) practice until improvement or c) put it on hold and retry another time.  Often we fall short at first, but it eventually clicks if we stay on it.   
  7. Failure is usually a better teacher than success.  It hurts more though.
  8. History shows nearly everyone that made a dent first failed a bunch.  Steve Jobs was fired from Apple in 1985.  Later he said the eventual success of the company would never have happened without him getting canned.
  9. There are things you are good at that you don't yet know about.  Get out there and discover them!

'thon #13 done



  1. #3 gets me a lot. I remember once beating myself up over the fact that I wasn't fantastic at piano despite all my practice. I wanted to give up and was refusing to play at my recital. My dad told me "If only the one best pianist in the world was allowed to play piano,.... no one would ever get to hear the music." It was a random thought, but one that stuck with me. There will always be someone better than you at a task, that doesn't mean you should give it a try! Thanks for this list! P.S. that daughter of yours gets more stunning by the day!

  2. Ah, Beard, three great posts. Good reading, And well done with the run!.
    Pigtails is a snapshot of you in high school!

  3. "There are things you are good at that you don't yet know about." Amen!


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