About


What's the point?
The web holds a decent stack of single parent blogs, but pickin's are slim for single dad blogs.  I suppose that's because only a smidgen of fathers have primary custody.  Separation and divorce slice many marriages, so there's a legion of parents in a leaky boat like me.

I hope this blog encourages those going through rough times.


What I like
I try and prioritize life in this order:  God, daughter, work, beef brisket.  

Despite once scoring -15 on a high school essay, I somehow came around and now enjoy writing.  I run a couple thousand miles per year (foolish) with the SCRC and am a seasoned marathon man.  Pigtails and I find at least one small fun thing to do together each day:  Candyland, bike ride, breaking wild horses, leaving lit bags of dog doo on the neighbor's doorstep.  

Pigtails and I find a little adventure in everyday life.  Stick with me and you'll see what I mean, let's go.

-Beard







97 comments:

  1. Aww how nice, I came over via YHL- to see your beautiful new kitchen! ... then I just started looking around.... then I said the name of your blog aloud.... a couple of times... wondering what it means, then got to looking really hard.. then I re read the caption.... a single dad.. and all I could do is SMILE from ear to ear.
    Your blog is very nice, interesting, and fun. your little girl is beautiful, and so are you. Good luck in all that you do. .... I wish all men, dads were as into their children as you seem to be into yours.
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    gina

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  2. Anonymous3/22/2012

    I stopped over due to YHL-Love your blog! Your writing style is pretty sweet (even if you did only get a -15 on the Eng. Essay) and so is pigtails. I'm an official follower as of TODAY (I even tweeted about it!) Thanks for the blog and being such a great dad to pigtails. Keep Him first!

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    1. Thanks for the read and tweets, and all praise to our Lord.

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  3. kathy H3/22/2012

    ... what Gina said! :)

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  4. Anonymous3/22/2012

    I too jumped over from YHL cause of your attractive kitchen. Not knowing what to expect I poked around enough to find your blog interesting. A single father with great decorating taste, that has a cute little girl and a blog named "Beard & Pigtails". Yep, made me smile too! Keep doing what your doing. Your little girl looks very happy! ***Smiles***

    Sandy

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  5. As much as I hate to be a follower I also happened upon your blog thanks to the Petersik clan at YHL and am already a huge fan! Noah's Ark and all things WI Dells have a special place in my heart being a Southern WI girl myself, AND I'm a marathon runner who currently resides in Minneapolis so keep the Grandma's marathon posts-a-comin! Look forward to hearing about all of your adventures!

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    1. I'm toying with running Twin Cities this fall, you've run that bad boy, right?

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  6. Hey. You've gained about 15 followers while I was poking around your blog. That's good stuff. (Another inquisitive person from YHL.) Cute blog name and interesting reading. And great kitchen overhaul! Cheers, S.

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  7. Anonymous3/22/2012

    Also came over from YHL. Great blog, love your writing style. Keep it up!

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  8. I'm a YHL snooper as well and your blog puts a smile to my face. Your dedication to your daughter makes me happy and helps reassure me about the decision I made to let my ex have primary custody of our son during the school year. His dad lives in a more affluent area with better schools and more opportunity than where my family is moving to and although it was a hard decision to make, it's nice to know that kids can thrive as much with their fathers as they can with their mothers. Every situation's different but at least I feel like my kid's better off with his father and will be alright for the time being. Keep up the good work!! :)

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    1. Anonymous3/22/2012

      Kind of rude of you to say that about YHL, they are the most down to earth people ever.

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    2. Anonymous3/22/2012

      Throne? You clearly have a weird way of reading people. Rude.

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    3. Anonymous3/22/2012

      Wow, someones jealous! I <3 YHL!

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    4. Anonymous3/22/2012

      Wow. You actually think YHL had to 'hop off their throne?' Well, Erika...with a K, I don't know of a more informative, down-to-earth couple sharing their adventures in DIY and taking the time to love & support their fellow bloggers and followers! Wow.

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    5. Rude indeed. Why read their blog if you think so little of them? You must not read often enough, as they post quite regularly of others renovations, and promote many blogs, sites and businesses as well. You may want to rethink your idea of who is sitting on a throne.

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    6. Oh c'mon, Erika, don't be a tool. With a T.

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    7. Anonymous3/23/2012

      I couldn't agree more with the replies to your comment Erika! I love that YHL takes the time to introduce us to other DIYers and bloggers. Beautiful kitchen redo and I've had fun digging around your blog, Beard!!

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    8. Anonymous3/23/2012

      Hey...I'm Erika with a K too, but that was really rude- about YHL. I know several comments I have left on OLD posts and they've hopped off their throne EVERY time to answer. So not all ERIKA's are mean...and Beard...I hopped over hear from YHL...great site-great kitchen!

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    9. Agreeing with all the replies here... I've always been impressed with how much YHL posts about other blogs and seems to have really great relationships with other bloggers. Even though they are constantly diverting us readers elsewhere, I always come back to them every morning to see what's new because they are THE BEST!!!

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  10. Anonymous3/22/2012

    Amazing what Young House Love can do for a blog, huh?! Thank you for being a stand-up dad who is unashamed of his love for his daughter - more men could learn a thing (or two, or twenty!) from you.

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    1. YHL's traffic put the smack on my blog, 80,000 clicks in 48 hours. And thanks for standing up for us dads.

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  12. Just like everyone else, I hopped over here from YHL! :) Great blog!

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  13. Christina3/22/2012

    Ditto YHL. Ditto read a bit of your blog. Ditto you sound like a terrific dad with great taste! Ditto, ditto, ditto. New fan in Ohio!

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  14. Another YHL reader here. Love your redo and looking forward to reading your blog. Your daughter is lovely and you're pretty cute, yourself ;)

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  15. YHL reader checking in - and a new fan of yours. As a 25-year-old daughter raised by a single dad, I've got a special kind of appreciation for a dude like you. You ROCK. :)

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  16. Anonymous3/22/2012

    I too stopped by because of YHL. Great kitchen! Great blog! Love your writing style

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  17. I am a lover of the BBQ beef brisket!

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    1. Now that is a random comment.

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  18. Anonymous3/22/2012

    YHL brought me here. I am so glad. This blog will now become a regular haunt of mine. I really like the way you write, and your kitchen is awesome! Can't wait to hear all your adventures with Pigtails.. Oh, & your photography is pretty nice too. Angela.

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  19. Good stuff man. Fantastic kitchen reno and an inspirational man of God.

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  20. Anonymous3/22/2012

    Your blog is a beaut! I popped over from YHL - gorgeous kitchen - and started looking around. I don't typically comment, but want to let you know that you're incredibly inspiring. All the best to you and Pigtails! Victoria

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  21. +1 to what everyone said. Very inspiring blog! Following now.!

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  22. Anonymous3/22/2012

    stopped by because of YHL. Will definitely check in frequently- hello from Florida!

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  23. Michelle3/22/2012

    Another YHL reader stopping by, just subscribed ;) Keep it up!

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  24. Another YHL pop over. Diggin' your writing style. Love your about page. I'm officially in it for the long haul.

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  25. Anonymous3/22/2012

    Another YHL reader saying hi! Great blog. Your daughter is beautiful and your kitchen rocks.

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  26. Anonymous3/22/2012

    Another YHL reader! I don't normally comment either, but I LOVE your blog and plan to check in regularly as well.

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  27. Anonymous3/22/2012

    Another YHL reader, will definitely be back to see what you are up to!!

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  28. Anonymous3/22/2012

    Great blog! Your daughter is beautiful and it seems that you are a fantastic father. Life and marriage can be so hard- it never is quite what you thought it would be. It is full of unexpected twists and turns- some painful, but thankfully some very beautiful. As hard as your journey has been, you have been blessed with the opportunity to have a very special relationship with your daughter that few fathers have. God will bless you because of your faithfulness to Him and your precious daughter.

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    1. I'm impatient and often don't feel like I reap the toiling of trying to do things the right way. But God's on a different timeline, and it'll work out in the end. That, or I'll end up a cat lady.

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  29. Anonymous3/22/2012

    I am yet another ubiquitous YHL reader who came over to see all the details of your kitchen remodel. Excellent job. Love it. Inspirational. My husband and I are about to launch down the same rabbit hole and the details of your kitchen remodel both confirmed and destroyed some of the decisions we've made, so thank you (I think). I'm now hooked on your bog, will keep reading, and probably share with others. On a separate note, my husband was a single dad with full custody of his son almost his entire life (son now living last two years of high school with mom, which has been very good for him). There seem to be more full-time single dads out there these days, and I commend them for stepping up. However, I'm not going to be overly generous with the praise, because it implies that men deserve some kind of special reward for doing what many single mothers have been doing for years and year and years. Just sayin'. Cheers, Chef KB

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  30. Love what you did with your kitchen (yep... I came over via the Petersiks...) Stayed a few minutes to check out the rest of your blog and I'm impressed and looking forward to reading more. I pray God gives you comfort and heals your wounded spirit in the wake of your divorce. My sister went through a nasty breakup years ago and determined to focus on raising her kids (who were 3 years old and 11 months old when she left her unfaithful husband). She doesn't want to be alone the rest of her life, but she figures that right now, her kids are her priority and if God has someone else in mind for her, He'll let her know when the time is right. Maybe it is the same for you.

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  31. Hello! I too jumped on over via YHL, LOVE the kitchen makeover, and the table is amazing! You have a new follower from Melbourne, Australia now :)

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  32. Nice job on the kitchen, really love the table and the cutie sitting there. I have a daughter of a similar age sitting next to me right now. Bit crazy, all the sudden attention? My daughter's attic bedroom was featured last month on YHL and it was crazy for awhile too. I always think it's fun to discover new voices.

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    1. That's nice of YHL to share reader rebuilds on their site. Heading over there now to track down your attic article, thanks.

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  33. I am also from yhl... Can't wait to read more!

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  34. I also found you through YHL. Congratulations on a great kitchen. I will be adding your site to my regular blog check. My 10 year old daughter has been helping me with my blog and it is a great experience for both of us. Thanks for sharing.

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    1. Thanks Mike, and hope you enjoy blogging as much as I do.

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  35. Great reno, great style, both written and designed. I particularly enjoy your straight forward writing style. I was blessed with a stay at home Dad similar to yourself. We three girls have all flown the coop now but he can be found doing his thing at www.timshels.com. Check him out, he's also bearded, booted, and besweatered. Cheers :)

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  36. I too found you thanks to YHL. I love your kitchen! It gave me some great ideas to suggest to my BF for finishing up his small, narrow kitchen space. I look forward to reading more about your life adventures.

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  37. Love how you thought out your process for re-ding the kitchen and making it suit you and your needs. Looks very nice. Here from YHL. I like the humor you inject also.

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  38. I also followed the hordes here from YHL to see more about your kitchen redo. I like your writing style and refreshing take on life. I was a single mother of one and I can tell you that it makes for a very strong and special bond. My girl is 22 now, and is my best friend. I look forward to reading more :-)

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  39. Came over from YHL with the rest. Had to look yours up from home because work doesn't let the pictures load on most blogs :) What a refreshing perspective you have. Keep up the good work with life and Pigtails. God bless you as you go :D Oh, and nice kitchen ;)

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  40. Anonymous3/22/2012

    Dito on the YHL! Your blog is so refreshing and I enjoyed poking around. I'll definitely check back every now and then to check it out! Great job on the kitchen redo!

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  41. Anonymous3/23/2012

    YHL brought me here! A shout out from Singapore!

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  42. Yep, another YHL reader here! Love your kitchen and your love for Pigtails, you got me as soon as you said you would let her use your brand new floors as a chalk board! :)

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  43. Came over from YHL to see your kitchen remodel and fell in love with the entire blog. Just subscribed.

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  44. Stopped over from YHL. Pleasantly surprised you reside in the same city as me, uber excited to venture out to West End Architectural Salvage again and look at reclaimed wood! Snooped around your site, like your quirky writing!

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    1. WHO YOU CALLING QUIRKY!?

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  45. Lovely Kitchen, too bad you didn't get a robot Rosie, if you ever do let me know! :) I love that you put God first, it is something I am trying to do, but I really need to work on! Love your blog and writing style! A YHL reader.

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    1. I'm pretending my Roomba is a Rosie, just wish it could take out the trash.

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  46. Love your blog. I am sending your link to my hubbie. Although he isn't "single" he does have an 11 year old son and their bond is awesome. I am particularly interested in his reading about limiting your childs choices!!! Oh we need this so much! Have a great adventure!

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  47. Debbie3/23/2012

    my BF & i once flew in our plane from fargo to duluth to enjoy the weekend. little did we know it was grandmas marathon weekend. there wasnt a hotel room, let alone a parking spot left in the whole town. its been eight years, but still, whenever we head to duluth, no matter what time of year it is, we always says the same thing, "is that damn marathon this weekend?" congrats on an awesome & well written blog!

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    1. Those darn annoying and smelly marathoners.

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  48. I love your blog! I found it from a link in Young House Love. Your kitchen redo is amazing! I am so jealous! Pigtails is beautiful by the way! :)

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  49. Found you through YHL and think we are in the same area!! I love West End Salvage and have gotten many things for our home there. You are now on my favorites list! Pigtails is beautiful, too! She looks about the same age as my daughter. :)

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    1. W.E.Salvage is fantastic.

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  50. Ahh- the YHL crowd has arrived. I'm one of them!
    I came over to check out your kitchen, since it is very similar to my own, unfortunately mine is far closer to your "before" picture. booooo. I poked around a little, and this is a nice blog you've got here. I'm coming back again! have a good weekend!

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  51. I'm another YHL import. I have shamelessly spent 30 minutes of company time hopping around your blog & have enjoyed every minute. Kudos for doing such a great job raising Pigtails. Love the kitchen re-do. Can I post to Pinterest?

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    1. Our secret, and Pinterest is a go.

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  52. Anonymous3/23/2012

    I LOVE your kitchen! Especially that awesome table :)

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    1. +1, another reader popping over from YHL.

      As a single mom to a lovely 5 year old boy, I wish you and your lovely girl the best!

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  53. Anonymous3/23/2012

    So, ditto all the posts above. Longtime YHL follower who loves an interesting read. Great blog, will be back!

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  54. LOVE LOVE LOVE IT! Where have you been my WHOLE life? I totally leave burning bags of dog poo on my neighbors door step! Seriously, congrats on taking the whole fatherhood thing really seriously. Pigtails is super cute and really blessed to have an awesome daddy.
    From one single parent to another, blood sweat and tears is what it takes. Silly you thought marathons were tough. :) BTW..high five on the killer kitchen redo.

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      Congrats?

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  55. Well, I hopped over from YHL as well, yes because your kitchen is the most functional/gorgeous thing I've ever seen, but also because you're a single dad. I was raised by a single father since age 6 and I'm a big fan of great single dads! Love your writing style, Pigtails is adorable, and you're now on my Google reader for regular stalking. Yay!

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  56. Guess how I found your blog? Yup, YHL. I'm gonna have to send a link over to my husband, he's been the stay-at-homer/part-timer the past few years so we didn't have to send our daughter to the dreaded D. Plus, your writing style is right up his alley. He is constantly feeling like all the SAHMs are looking at him like he's a creep when he takes our 3-yr-old to the park or picks her up from preschool. God bless & keep up the awesome.

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  57. Thanks for the nice notes, you gave me a lift this week!

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    1. Anonymous4/01/2012

      Hey Beard,
      Just looking through some recent posts & your increase in commenters....are....mostly female. Those are good odds for you, No? Maybe a new B&P follower could become, one day, an added pseudonym to this here blog story. I know the thought of that is probably weird, but it crossed my mind & in the internet way of life - stranger things have happened. None the less, everytime I drop in here now along with your post, the lovely things the commenters pitch-in always give me a smile. I love it!! Thanks for sharing in the blog world. Angela.

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    2. I'm tight with gal-pal Curls, and agree the comments make this blog.

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      Whoops! Sorry, hadn't caught up with the bit about Curls yet! Angela.

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  58. Anonymous4/02/2012

    Fantastic blog! I'm another YHL transport... Came for the kitchen table, that I'm still drooling over, and stayed for the adventures/life lessons (your post on tea informed me I have been enjoying piping hot cups of potpurri for years - I'm only slightly embarrassed about this).

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    1. We toured the Celestial Seasonings tea factory in Boulder Colorado a couple years ago, they said herbal tea is their #1 seller. So you're not alone in slurping down volcanic-hot potpourri.

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  59. A little (ok maybe a lot) jealous of your kitchen. It's gorgeous!

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  60. WOW!!! YHL readers totally rocked out your "About Me" page! As much as I LOVE Sherry & John and their blog (I live in the same city as the YHL'ers so we obviously share great tastes!,)I'm not a YHL import. I've been here and loving the B & P blog for a little while now!

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    1. No kidding, I got spanked by the YHL readers. And I mean that in a good way, a good spanking.

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    2. Hee Hee. . .you said "spanked". Sorry, that's the immature middle schooler in me! :-)

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  61. In all my Pinteresting (that's a thing now, isn't it?) and Better Homes and Gardens stalking, your kitchen is the most charming, efficient, down-to-earth, frugal, cozy, and stupendous place I have found.
    WOW. I too found you through YHL, and followed!
    Love your writing. I'll be back for more.
    And very grateful for the manly, well-thought-out reviews on IKEA kitchenary: my [bearded!] hubbs has been leary of it, hope he'll take interest in the products from your descriptions.

    You have a lovely daughter and a beautiful heart. =)

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    1. Thanks SKetch!

      Is your husband coming around on the IKEA kitchen? There is definitely better quality stuff out there, but I've not seen another brand that tops Swedish engineering for smart use of space and price. I didn't need $10,000 worth of top-quality cherry cabinets, at least not in this small, simple home.

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  62. Found you through YHL :) Love your posts and will follow. It's really great to see a man's view on raising a child. I have three girls of my own and it's insightful to read your posts. Best wishes Beard

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  63. Nice blog! Very fun and light-hearted. I just recently started a single-father blog - in my profile here - and have been peeking around at other similar blogs, and so far, this is one of the best one's. I'll keep an eye on this. :)

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  64. I love the idea of keeping laughter in your heart during a troubling time reminds you that this is not the end of the world and that there will be life after even the most difficult and tragic of events!

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  65. You are an inspiration, Beard! Pigtails is super lucky!

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Thanks for the note, check back for my response!